Thursday, June 23, 2011

Mind your manners, friends.

I'm not quite sure why everyone has this need to be rude to others. Maybe it's their lack of social etiquette, or their lack of social filter...or maybe even, perhaps, their medical degree they earned off of Web MD. Whatever it is, it's completely unnecessary.

Yesterday at the gym I had the following conversation with a lady about 55 years old as I was walking into the fitness room and she was walking out:

Me - "Good Morning."
Her - "Good Morning. Are you here to work out?"
Me - "Nope, I'm here to observe. I dress like this for fun."
Her - "What class are you waiting on?"
Me - "Pilates."
Her - "You know, it's really not appropriate for pregnant ladies to work out. You never know what it could do to your baby. That is a very tough class. Very strenuous."
Me - "Really? I had no idea. I think I may need to tell my doctor so she can go back to medical school then because she told me that working out is good for me. Thank you so much for the advice! I will obviously listen to you over my doctor!"

Ok, you're right...That's not EXACTLY how the conversation went. But everything she said was dead on. I may or may not have said those things but I was definitely thinking them!

Here's another fun one. It literally took every ounce of Jesus I had in me not to slap this guy stupid.

I was at Kroger the other day picking up a few things and this man, probably in his late 40's early 50's (and probably drunk) comes up and says:

Him - " much longer do you have to go?"
Me - "About 3 1/2 months."
Him - "That's exciting! But you still have the entire summer to go!"
Me - "Yes, I know that."
Him - "It's going to be so hot!"
Me - "I know, it is every summer." (note the agitation is just a brewin'!)
Him - "Man, I sure feel sorry for your husband!"

That is the point where I wanted to spout off something snarky about him being single and that he probably would be for the rest of his life...but instead I smiled and walked away.

I also had someone ask me the other day if I had planned my baby. Maybe not completely rude, but I found it odd. Yes, we did plan our baby. But is that really anyone's business. I thought it was so odd and I was caught off guard. It's not like I'm 16, or dating a guy I've known for 3 months. I'm married, 27 years old and have been with B for 6 years! Is it really a surprise that we tried to get pregnant?!

Seriously, I've said it before, some people should really not be allowed in public...


HickChickBritt said...

I completly understand! I am just 4 months so I'm not showing to the general public yet, but everyone I know seems to be guilty of these things. I hate that everyone tries to force feed me. I haven't been that hungry so everyone thinks baby needs candy, chips, fruit, pretty much anything they are eating, they want to share with me. The funny thing is this is coming from the people I work with, and I work with all guys!. I also get asked all the time if this was planned. No it was not, but my husband and I are 29 and have been married for 4 years, so why should anyone care. Sorry just needed to vent, but I feel ya!

Princess Freckles said...

Sometimes I think people just want to make conversation and are trying to be polite, yet it all comes out wrong, and is actually really rude instead. That man probably was trying to be friendly, but his joke wasn't funny. it must be really annoying to have people commenting constantly on that fact that you're pregnant! And who asks if it was planned? That is very personal, and when you're a married couple, even if it isn't "planned", it's a happy thing! God has the "plan"! Hang in there!

Kristen said...

Aghhh! How annoying!

You should have told the gym lady "well, maybe they thought that working out wasn't good while you were pregnant IN THE OLDEN DAYS, but they encourage it now" ha ha!

I have heard the summer commnet about a million times already too, as if we hadn't thought of that before people!

Linda Chapman said...

I am so sorry!! People DO say such nasty things!! When I was pregnant with Amber and ESPECIALLY with Benjamin (I was 36 and 39 years old) SEVERAL people said, "I'm glad it's YOU and not ME!!" So was I! AT least people aren't rubbing your belly.....yet! Be prepared to tell them to keep their hands OFF OF YOU!

Texas Tales said...

Came over to comment and found it funny my mom already has!! ^^

LOL :)

Anyway, I can only imagine how irritating stupid people must be while you're pregnant. Those are exactly the types of comments I know I will encounter whenever we decided to have a kid. And I probably won't be as gracious with my responses as I know you are!

PS - Like the new blog look!

Abbie said...

It never ceases to amaze me how stupid some people are! It's like they don't have a filter between their brain and mouth!

Lindsey said...

Jeez! People are so rude!!!! Sorry friend!

Bree said...

People are so weird sometimes. I think they just lack a filter and general common sense!

Crazy Shenanigans-JMO said...

Oh man!!! People are ridiculous!!!!

d.a.r. said...

What is it about being pregnant that authorizes everyone to have unsolicited opinions about your every action?? It is so annoying!!

Sorry about the rude people...

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